How has your child changed from when he was younger?
What do you like about this age?
What don’t you like?
Your preschooler needs both trust and guidance.
The almost-toddler wants very much to feed herself! She seems like a baby, but acts like a toddler. Even if she seems small and clumsy, don’t try to feed her. She will fuss and not eat. She’s not being naughty or spoiled. She hasn’t stopped loving you. She just wants to feed herself. She knows she’s not a baby any more. Let her feed herself, but stay with her when she eats. You need to keep her company and keep her safe from choking.
Here is what your preschooler is like:
He wants to get better at all that he does–including eating. He learns in little steps. He works to like new foods, learn table manners, and eat in other places besides home.
He thinks you know everything and he needs you to show him what he needs to learn. Show him by deciding what, when and where he gets to eat.
He wants to please you. Make it possible by letting him decide how much and whether to eat—of what you offer. He eats if you make him, but he feels bad.
He likes serving himself at meals. He doesn’t always eat everything he takes. Teach him to dish up less and ask for more helpings.
He needs to know you approve. Pay attention when he does things right, not just when he does things wrong.